My face, my rules.

3.10.12

I receive a lot of random emails, promoting anything from children's shoes to generous sums of money from relatives in Venezuela that I didn't realise I had.  But the other day I received something that really spurred me into writing this post.

The email happily told me that "when it comes to make up, less is more according to men".  Thank goodness that's been cleared up.  Only, hold on....I don't wear make up for men?  Ed can vouch for me with this one, because when he tells me that he hates my lipstick, I whack on another layer and wear it with even more pride.

You may think I'm being touchy, but the fact that a website went to the trouble of conducting a survey to collect this information....and then send it to a blogger who features quite a bit of make up just shocked me.  I buy make up because I like make up.  I like trying out new styles of application, creating new looks and just the thrill of adding to my collection pleases me immensely.  I have a great respect for make up artists and the artistry they create.  So why would anyone assume that the news that men prefer women with less make up would interest me, or many others of the female race?

I have just read Caitlin Moran's How To Be A Woman, so maybe her feminism has rubbed off on me slightly, but this just seems so incredibly sexist and outdated to me.  Yes, men may well prefer women who look more like a natural beauty than a WAG, but how insulting to send me such news as if I actually care, or would actually change my ways to please anybody else?

I wear make up to face the world.  On a Sunday when I drag myself to the corner shop, minus the make up, I do feel a tad uncomfortable holding my head high and don't always wish the shop assistant a good day with my same usual cheer.  I feel slightly bare without any foundation or concealer, but this is whether the shop assistant is male or female.  When faced with a beautiful man then I most certainly feel like a ratbag when my face is free of make up, but the same would be true when faced with a beautiful woman.  My self-confidence and the way I feel with or without make up is not dependent on whether the person in front of me is a man or not.

The final sentence of the email was the nail in coffin for me: "...there is no right or wrong amount of make up to wear but if you're out on the pull....you may wish to ditch the make up in the hunt for the dream man."  To anyone reading this, I hope you'll agree with my thoughts that your dream man will see through the make up we all wear and love you for you.  It's demeaning and insulting to suggest that a woman needs to do her make up the way men like to make one think that perhaps she's worth bothering with.  I know I struck gold with Ed, but I really hope that I'm not alone in being able to confidently say that the man who matters to me is still here at the end of the day when my mascara comes off, and he loves me just as much then as when I put it on in the morning.

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  1. Well said. Make up is like therapy for me. It's an essential component of self care. Bollocks to what anyone else thinks! xx

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    1. Haha that last sentence is definitely a lesson for life! x

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  2. I have huge love for this post. The company in question surely should realise that make up is to make the woman feel better about herself, and absolutely nothing to do with attracted a bloke. If a guy ever told a girl to not wear a certain make up, he's obviously not worth her! xo.

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    1. Thank you :) It was from a casino, of all companies...why on Earth would they conduct this research and then send it on to women!? I felt like carrying out my own survey to tell them that women don't particularly like men with gambling issues...x

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  3. Well said!! I don't wear a lot of make up overall, but I do always like to have mascara, eyeliner and a bit of concealer on before leaving the house. I don't wear the make up i do wear to please men, so I agree that this press release is annoying! These PR's just don't think sometimes xx

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    1. It's ridiculous! I don't cake it on, but what I do put on is there for me and my own self-confidence, definitely not for anybody else's benefit x

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  4. Great post! I agree, I don't wear a huge amount of make up on a day to day basis but what I do wear I like to wear because it gives me confidence to start my day! I feel more like 'me'. It is all about what makes you feel confident & what you want to wear! x

    missjaynebecca.blogspot.co.uk

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    1. Precisely, I think 99% of the female population wear make up for themselves and not to attract a man! x

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  5. I always wear makeup for myself, no one else! Great post xo

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  6. Great post, hearing statements like that annoys me so much. I wear make-up for myself because it makes me feel more confident. I don't wear it to the gym or if I'm just popping to the shop but I'd never dream of going make-up free at work as its just a part of the "me" that I present to the world. x

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    1. Yes, I'm not one of those girls who put on a fresh layer to go sweat it off at the gym! x

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  7. Well said!! I'm new to your blog and this is the first post I've read but consider me a new follower!

    -Alice
    shinyprettythings-alice.blogspot.co.uk

    x

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  8. Well said. Wearing make up is up to the indivual wearer if wearing make up makes you feel ready for the day then wear it. x

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    1. I have great respect for people with the confidence to go fresh-faced...it's not something I like to do regularly (or if I'm seeing people who know what I look like normally, with make up) because I'm not brave enough! x

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  9. i wonder if you wouldnt mind me linking to this post in an upcoming blog post i will be doing, as i love what you have written about... let me know if you dont mind :) x

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    1. Bethan that'd be fine, I'd love for you to share this! x

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