Some Observations About People


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They're not all normal | The older I get, the more people I encounter that just baffle me.  I consider myself pretty 'normal' so when I meet somebody who acts and thinks so differently to me, it's a little reminder that we're not all the same. I'm not saying it's a bad thing, but I'm sure you all know the type.  The high-strung, neurotic, illogical kinda people.....yeah, those ones.

Some just love to be negative | Ahhh, those 'rain on my parade' type people.  The ones who never have a solution, only problems, and love to be angry at the world.  I'm an emotional sponge so really try not to invest too much time in these people.  If they want to be on a self-destructive downer I say go for it, just remember that you're probably too fab for their negativity.

The persona they project isn't always their true self | I can't help but compare myself to others, so when I see somebody with their shizz together by default I'm always gonna feel bad.  But comparison is the thief of joy (so I'm told) and in reality you'll never know what's going on behind the scenes.  I often find that people over-compensate and highlight a certain side of themselves to mask another.  Never feel bad about not matching up to what someone else has.

You can't make someone be who you want them to be | We all have different agendas and different motivations, so it's not fair to try and shape somebody to fit with your ideals.  I'd love it if Nick were able to get out of bed a little a lot earlier at the weekends, and take much quicker showers.  6 years down the line, it hasn't happened, and the aggro and stress it's caused me just isn't worth it.  Focus on what's good about a person instead of wishing you could change them. 

It's ok to cut toxic people out | Ok, so this one sounds slightly cutthroat....but if something's not good for you, you cut it out, right?  You're allergic to dairy?  You don't eat dairy.  White bread makes you bloat?  Switch to wholemeal.  If a person is a negative influence on your life and doesn't bring you joy anymore, it's time to think about whether that's an energy you still want around.

They won't all like you | For a people-pleaser like me, this realisation can be a hard pill to swallow.  But as I've got older and more comfortable in my own skin, I care less.  You're never going to be everyone's cup of tea, but I figure that if you know deep down you're a good person and there's nothing you can do about the situation, then you have to let sleeping dogs lie.

Some are good for your spirit | Shall we end on a high point?  There are some people who are good for you.  Calming influences, mutually beneficial friendships that work, are easy, and bring out the best in you.  When it comes down to it, these are the people that matter and these are the ones you should hang on to.  Awwwwww.

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